Misconceptions about me because of my blog

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I love my blog. This blog is literally my baby and I enjoy everything about it. I love all of my subscribers and all of the wonderful support that I get. However, one of the things I have noticed in the past couple months is how quickly I am judged and who i ma is decided on just because I have a blog and what it is about. I have had a few conversations with friends, relatives, and just people who follow me on social media and I have learned that people have gotten the wrong idea about me many times.

At first, I was frustrated because I felt like people think that all bloggers in a niche have the exact same personalities and a lot of times the only thing we have in common is what we like to talk about on our blogs.  The looks on people’s face when I tell them I am a blogger used to frustrate me. It doesn’t anymore because I realize that there are stereotypes for just about everything. People assume that in every career you’ll find a person with a certain type of personality.

So, I decided to take this time to clear some things up so that you guys get a better understanding of who I am and not just base it off of who you think I am because of this blog or just the fact that I am a blogger by itself.

 

Misconceptions about me because of this blog

  1. My job is easy. People who aren’t bloggers tend to think that being a blogger is easy and I am lazy because all I do is sit at a laptop all day. Attempting not to sound ranty, let me just say: THAT IS NOT TRUE. I have worked twelve hour days just putting in work for this blog alone. There is technical stuff that you have to worry about, but then there is marketing, social media scheduling, images for the post, editing, coming up with topics, PINTEREST ALONE WAS A LOT OF WORK FOR ME because I cannot stand creating images and I didn’t know for awhile how to do Pinterest. Pinterest eventually got easier for me because I took this really amazing mini course for Pinterest that helped me learn how to use it for my business, but even still it takes time and effort. I remember this one woman that I used to work with told me that blogging was a job for people who didn’t like to work and never wanted to change out of their pajamas and she may do it too. She did start a blog a few months later. Then, a month ago she sent me a message on Instagram telling me that she underestimated how difficult blogging, ESPECIALLY AS A CAREER, would actually be and wanted to know if she could utilize my social media services. Of course I helped her and gave her advice on how to grow, but it was a PRIME example of how people overlook how much work actually goes into a successful blog whether you make money from it or not. I don’t just slap words to a screen and share it and then there’s instant success. It does not work that way. (I tried so hard for this not to be a rant, I really did).
  2. I’m always positive. This couldn’t be further from the truth. In actuality, I struggle to stay positive and keep my mind focused on the right things. I suffer from depression and there are times when I can stay in a rut for months at a time. I am blessed to have a boyfriend and friends who never allow me to let my mental illnesses keep me from being successful in my endeavors, but that does not mean that they exist. One of the main reasons that I batch write my blog posts is because I know that when I get in these depressive ruts, I don’t want to write anything. I am always prepared for these unproductive times in my life. I don’t broadcast that I am not feeling positive all the time because who wants to see negativity on their timeline every week? Not me so I don’t want to give that to you guys. I want to spread love and positivism everywhere I go, but that does NOT mean that I am always happy and positive and on my grind the way that I should. 
  3. I don’t have a social life. In all honesty… this is semi true. I do not really go out and hang out with people on a regular basis, BUT a common misconceptions about bloggers is that they are hermits who stay in their room and blog all day. That is not true. The reason my social life isn’t like I would like is because I don’t know a lot of people where I live. I do still have lots of friends. In fact, in a few days (I wrote this blog post a week before it is posted) I have some friends coming here and I will be spending the weekend with them. I love spending time with my friends and I do go out as regularly as I can. I have regular face time sessions with loved ones and I do my best to catch up with my friends. Now, as I said…. I am not 100% great at this so I do kind of have a sucky social life in comparison to others, but I am working on it!
  4. I pretend to be perfect. I said that i am not always positive, but I NEVER fake a single thing. If I accept an affiliate association, it’s because I stand by the product. When I write my positive thoughts and notions and content on social media, I mean every word of what I am saying. If I am in a bad place, I am open about it. I cannot count how many times I have been accused of putting on a facade just because I smile in my Instagram pictures and I talk about how I strive for positivity. It is absolutely absurd. I do not pretend to be perfect. I am FAR from perfect. I am disorganized, clumsy, and I have a bit of a temper. I don’t pretend as if my life is all together. I don’t pretend as if I am rich and increased with goods and in need of nothing, but I don’t broadcast all of my issues either and some things that happen in my life I choose to keep private I am a private person. The same goes for a lot of other bloggers who are always smiling or speaking on the positive in their life. It doesn’t mean that they don’t have problems or they want you to think their life is perfect, but some people don’t want to share their personal struggles with the world and that’s okay. Some people do and that’s okay too, but that doesn’t make people who are private any less genuine. (Another rant it seems lol).

 

You should never judge a book by its cover and you should also be mindful of the box you place people in. For the most part, I get nothing but positive messages and love from my subscribers on here, on youtube, and on my social media. However, there are those few that feel they know me because they’ve seen a few tweets of mine and while I love those people for even taking an interest in me, I don’t want anyone to get the wrong idea about who I am and what I stand for if that makes any sense.

I feel like this blog post was more ranty than I originally intended, but I guess there were some things I really needed to get off my chest. I am not the only person who gets instantly judged. What are some misconceptions about bloggers have you heard about and disagreed with? Are there any blogger stereotypes that you do agree with? What are some misconceptions about you thta have floated around out there? Share your thoughts down below!

 

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10 Comments

  1. Nancy Davies on 12/10/2018 at 7:48 pm

    I agree with your comments. Bloggers are judged. Decor bloggers have the perfect houses that are never untidy, garden bloggers never have weeds in their garden or have plants that die, those who blog about bullet journals are so artistic and have all day to decorate their journals………….
    I am retired so I belong to that category of older people on the scrap heap of life though just because I have grey hair, wrinkles and a saggy bottom I am far from being on the scrap heap of life!!
    Some people will always generalise and I suppose they always will.

    • cherishingflo101 on 12/10/2018 at 11:41 pm

      That’s a good point! It can be annoying but it’s human nature I guess for people to make such ridiculous assumptions!

  2. Jena Leigh | Naughty Kitchen on 12/12/2018 at 1:21 pm

    I feel you with everything! I work full time and blog when I can. Family and friends assume that blogging is easy….when its more than an 8 hour job. Blogging is practically 24/7 or most of the day. Alot think that we don’t make money with our blog when we hustle hard! I also dont have much friends since I moved to another state so blogging has been my best friend lol.

    • cherishingflo101 on 12/12/2018 at 3:23 pm

      Blogging has been mine too. I recently moved to Georgia and don’t know anybody so I’m in the same boat!

  3. Nari Conscious Lifestyle on 12/12/2018 at 1:43 pm

    This Article is really an eye-opener. I also applaud you for really opening up and sharing the difficulties you face. As a blogger myself, I understand the complexities that come with it. As a blogger, you have to be a researcher, analyst, marketing strategist and pretty much wear all hats you will find is actually several separate roles in large corporations.

    Continue to do what you do.

    • cherishingflo101 on 12/12/2018 at 3:24 pm

      Thanks for that encouragement! People don’t know how much goes into it until they’re into it themselves and I think it is greatly underrated with the efforts that go into it! Thanks so much for reading and commenting!

  4. Patty on 12/12/2018 at 6:56 pm

    I agree with your comments. I started a blog related to my field about a month ago. Before I started a blog related to my field, I blog about basketball and tennis. Your first comment was the first thing that I had to deal with. On top of the first comment, a common thing that I heard was it was a big waste of time.

    • cherishingflo101 on 12/12/2018 at 7:18 pm

      Yeah people always think they know about things they have know experience with. It can be a little frustrating. But I try to ignore it and write it off to ignorance. You wrote about basketball and tennis? That sounds pretty interesting! What is your current blog about?

  5. Sasha on 12/13/2018 at 9:21 am

    Thank you for sharing your raw and real feelings in this post. I think a lot of people don’t understand what it takes to be a blogger and what it is behind the vaccines. Thank you for this!

    • cherishingflo101 on 12/13/2018 at 12:59 pm

      Thanks so much for reading! I guess I did kind of need to let things out a bit!

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