How To Push Through Tough Times

I know people may not want to hear it, but difficult times are to be expected. It’s life. I, recently, have undergone some especially difficult times myself. We can’t control what life throws at us, but we can control how we respond to it. This may be hard to believe right now, if you’re going through things, but basking in your misery is definitely not the way to go. I’ve been there and I’ve done exactly that and all I ended up doing was prolonging my suffering.

Life is full of ups and downs. The toughest of the tough will go through pain and hurt. So, if you’re someone going through I’ll start by saying this: I am so sorry and I know that whatever it is, it’s hard and you may have a difficult time believing it’s possible to get through this. This post is for you and I hope that following these steps can help you get through it, even if that means just one person.


How To Get Through Hard Times

  • Look for the lesson. Struggles come to make us stronger. A few years ago, before I was in my current relationship, I had my heart broken pretty viciously. I was madly in love and I thought that I would marry him one day. He made me believe hat he would love me forever, but that was not the case. In fact, towards the end I discovered that he probably never truly loved me the same in the first place. When it ended, my heart was in pure turmoil. I didn’t know how to move forward. Then, I decided to think of what that relationship taught me. Because of that pain, I learned so much about myself and what I could accept in future relationships.
  • Reflect on past hard times. Now, this may sound ridiculous to some of you, but hear me out. This isn’t the first hardship you’ve been through. You may think it’s the worst, but do you remember the last time you thought you were going through the worst time ever? Then, what happened? You got past it. You got stronger. Now, that awful time is only a memory. And one day, so wil this.
  • Let it out. Find some sort of outlet for your feelings. They need to be purged. You can’t move on Holding things in. It’ll destroy you to do that. Find someone to talk to, write it out in a journal, sing some songs that properly describe how you’re feeling. Figure out whatever way works best for you . Sometimes you even have to go as far as to see a therapist. There was a point in my life when I had to do this. And it helped tremendously. If I hadn’t done it, I’m not sure how much mental health I would’ve retained.
  • Pamper yourself. This is probably my favorite one. Take yourself out on a date. It doesn’t matter if you’re in a relationship or not. Go out and do something for yourself that makes you happy. Take yourself out on a nature walk. Self-care is vital in times like this.
  • Get productive. Focusing on your goals for the future helps as well. If there is something that you’ve always wanted to do, now is the time to do it. Being busy with something productive that benefits your future keeps you from wallowing, pushes you forward, and promotes a better well being. When I go through hard times, I begin to plan and put in to place those plans. It puts me in a progressive state of mind which does help how I feel!
  • Change up some things. Switch some furniture around. Shake up some things in your morning routine. Find ways to haw new scenery. It helps put your mind into a fresh perspective. One thing that helped me was going to different parks and restaurants and coffee shops. I love new coffee shops.
  • Allow yourself to hurt. Sometimes the biggest mistake that we all seem to make is trying not to be hurt. I have tried multiple times to hold back tears and put on a brave face. But In the end I just prolonged my actual hurt. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to be sad. It’s okay to be in pain. Accept the pain. Open yourself up to just feeling it. That way you can deal with it and move forward.


Hard times, no matter what they are exactly, is a struggle we all endure. The thing we have to remember is that we all go through it. We all face heartbreak, financial issues, and more. What sets the successful and happy a part from the unsuccessful and unhappy is how we all handle adversity as it comes. I’m not saying be made of steel because I’m definitely not. But learn to heal the right way and with time. These are all lessons I’ve had to learn and these tips are things that I have done myself and they all helped me get through.

How do you handle getting through hard times? Comment down below!



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  1. Deborah on 11/21/2018 at 9:39 am

    Easy and well put Flo… You covered all the bases and more.
    Extra-ordinarily good common sense if we would only heed it more
    often. Thanks!

    • cherishingflo101 on 11/21/2018 at 10:09 am

      Thanks so much for reading and taking the time to comment!

  2. Joseph Abimbola on 11/21/2018 at 10:27 am

    I really love this part -Pamper yourself. That’s why i sometimes take myself for photoshoots and crush on myself. I love me. Thanks for sharing.

    • cherishingflo101 on 11/21/2018 at 12:14 pm

      Yes you Got To crush on yourself! Love that! Thanks for commenting!

  3. Evon on 11/21/2018 at 12:02 pm

    The last point hit hard for me! Allowing myself to hurt is the hardest thing but I’ll definitely keep this in mind.

    • cherishingflo101 on 11/21/2018 at 12:15 pm

      I understand because I struggle with it too. We all spend way too much time trying to force ourselves not to feel pain and it just causes more pain. Thanks for reading!

  4. Chanel on 11/21/2018 at 2:59 pm

    This was a really lovely and thoughtful post, I think it will help a lot of people especially around this time of year. Thank you for this 🙂 x

    • cherishingflo101 on 11/21/2018 at 3:42 pm

      Thanks so much for reading and commenting! I so appreciate it!

  5. Lauren on 11/21/2018 at 11:43 pm

    This is so inspirational. Thank you for sharing your positive outlook on life.

    • cherishingflo101 on 11/22/2018 at 9:36 pm

      Thanks so much for reading! I’m glad you enjoyed!

  6. Anna on 11/22/2018 at 8:43 pm

    Good advice for me to get back in the saddle on something I have been going through with my sister that I don’t talk to anymore. Watching her turn into an alcoholic and against me has almost destroyed at times. It comes in waves with me where I do really well on the items mentioned in your post, then I fall apart. Thank you for sharing.

    • cherishingflo101 on 11/22/2018 at 9:37 pm

      Well I definitely hope you can get through it and maybe help the situation with your sister! And if you EVER need anyone to talk to you can email me and I’ll give you my info and I’ll definitely be a listening ear!

  7. Jo Linsdell on 11/23/2018 at 4:09 pm

    Thank you for sharing this. I think everyone will find this advice useful at some point.

    • cherishingflo101 on 11/25/2018 at 8:23 am

      I agree! Thanks so much for reading and commenting!

  8. Pamela on 11/23/2018 at 9:24 pm

    Great post! Definitely needed during the holidays when people have loved ones who aren’t here to celebrate with them.

    • cherishingflo101 on 11/25/2018 at 8:24 am

      That’s so very true! That’s what inspired me to write it. Thanks for reading!

  9. Body Sculpt Forskolin on 11/24/2018 at 2:33 pm

    Real informative and great structure of content, now that’s user friendly (:.

    • cherishingflo101 on 11/25/2018 at 8:24 am

      Oh really?! I’m so glad you think so ☺️☺️☺️

  10. Amy on 12/30/2018 at 3:01 pm

    Loved this post. I stumbled upon it today and it was perfect timing. Thanks for the self care ideas.

    I wrote a bit about this topic as well. Here is a link if you’d like to check it out.

    Blessings to you!

    • cherishingflo101 on 12/31/2018 at 11:27 pm

      I’m so glad you stumbled! Thanks for coming by and I’m so glad this could help!

  11. Amy on 12/30/2018 at 3:02 pm

    Loved this post. I stumbled upon it today and it was perfect timing. Thanks for the self care ideas.

    I wrote a bit about this topic as well. Here is a link if you’d like to check it out.

    Blessings to you!

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